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About ten years ago, I was a driver for anti-choice Domino's Pizza in Philadelphia. After coming back from a delivery one night, I parked my car on South Street, across from our fine establishment. An "attractive-by-society's-standards" woman was walking by my car, and I am embarrassed to say I did turn and look at her for a moment after she passed by. I felt a bit guilty during the moment, but not as guilty as I did a moment later... I crossed the street to go back for my next delivery assignment, and passed a guy who had obviously seen me looking at this woman. He said to me something like, "Wow, she's hot, huh?" "Shit," I thought to myself. "Not only have I participated in the ogling of a woman, I've role-modeled it for this other guy! Quick, Ben, think of something that's pithy and will make a difference..." (This whole train of thought took place in about half of one second, as the guy continued to walk past me and my window to say something also was passing. So I said the first thing that came to mind... "Yeah, but I'll bet she has a PhD in astrophysics or something. I'll bet she's smarter than either of us!" "Probably right!" he said, and continued on. Since then, I've thought of so many other things I could have said that would have been better. But mostly, I thought to myself that I just shouldn't have stared at her in the first place. - Ben |